Making friends with your new flatmates
It’s natural to be nervous about moving in with strangers, but in reality it’s not as difficult as you might imagine. Here are some tips for getting to know your new flatmates:
Why don't you come and say hi on the LUU Leeds Student Community Facebook Group? You can post on here to see if you can connect with your future flatmates ahead of time. This way you’ll have already broken the ice by the time you meet in person.
You’ll have heard this time and time again, but it’s so true. Keep your door open as much as possible during your first week to encourage your new flatmates to come and say hello. A closed door could indicate that you don’t want to make friends, even if you’re actually just nervous.
Better still, be the one to take the plunge and introduce yourself to people first. They’ll really appreciate it, and the quicker you make connections the quicker the nerves melt away!
If you’re already settled, you could even help a new flatmate to move their things into their room - they’ll welcome the helping hand, and it will alleviate the need for small talk at the beginning.
Utilise the bonding power of food! Why not bring a packet of biscuits and offer your new flatmates a cup of tea? Or once everyone is moved in, you could spend an evening at home cooking a big meal or ordering a takeaway together. Dominos Pizza have some great student discount options.
Set up a group chat on WhatsApp as soon as you can to make sure everyone’s connected from the very beginning.
Make the most of the freshers’ events on offer and go as a group - as well as enabling you to get to know each other throughout the day, being in a group will make big events less nerve wracking.
Making friends with people on your course
It’s really beneficial to have a support network of people on your course who really understand your experience - and whose deadlines match up with yours! Why not try these ideas for making friends on your course?
School welcomes are one of the first opportunities you’ll have to meet your coursemates. The welcome will be designed to be informal so there’s no need to worry, but it’s useful to go along having thought about how you’d like to introduce yourself, as well as having a few ideas for questions to ask others to get to know them and get a conversation flowing.
Get chatting to your coursemates before and after your classes in the early days, and suggest grabbing a coffee after your classes - you’ll be able to debrief on the content and start forming friendships.
Utilise those Facebook groups to find people on your course, too. Walking into your first lecture will be a lot less scary with a ready-made acquaintance.
Join the academic society associated with your course for the opportunity to socialise in a less formal setting.
Making friends through clubs and societies
Speaking of societies, clubs and societies are one of the very best ways to make friends for life at university. There are literally hundreds to choose from, covering all manner of topics, and they’re a surefire way to meet people with similar interests to you.
Many of our societies host ‘Give it a Go’ events where you can try out their activity without becoming an official member. These are a great opportunity to both sample new hobbies and to meet new people in the process. Keep an eye on our What's On page - as societies start to organise these events, this is where they'll pop up.
If you’re not sure where to start, LUU’s got a special tool to help you find your fit when it comes to clubs and societies - give it a go here.
Volunteering is another great way to meet people with similar values to you whilst also building your skills and improving your wellbeing. Explore your options here.
So whether you’re trying to make friends in your accommodation, on your course or further afield, the best piece of advice is this: don’t overthink it. Everyone’s in the same boat and they’ll all be trying to make friends too - so whilst it’s important to make an effort, it will be much easier than you think to make connections and develop them into lasting friendships.